Talking About the Holidays

Lots of emotions, obligations, and sometimes unreasonable expectations come with the holidays, and when it comes to understanding those things, mind reading doesn’t often work too well during this time of year…or anytime, for that matter. So it’s critical for you as a couple to try to anticipate and address probable challenges ahead of time. Take […]

The Adventure of Thankfulness

For the past few years I’ve been doing the “30 Days of Thankfulness” challenge, posting what I’m thankful for each day of November. Maybe next year you can join me in this adventure or at least the rest of this month? This simple exercise has had an interesting result—it brings the entire year into focus. […]

Holy Love?

For anyone going into a second marriage (or anyone who has been sexually active), it’s wise to view sexual intimacy in your relationship as a place where God can give you a new start. Whether you’ve lost your first marriage to death or divorce, the fear of being intimate again can be overwhelming. Guilt, mistrust, […]

Listen and Love

Many of us have never really learned to listen well. We’ve learned to be selective listeners—sifting information, ignoring details, and allowing ourselves to be distracted by everything around us. In today’s media-driven world, we’re often living on information overload. We have concerns at work, at home, with the kids, with friends, in our communities, in […]

A Valentine’s Gift That Keeps on Giving

In our living room there is a symbol we used in our wedding ceremony. It’s a three-strand cord of red, white, and gold. For us, it symbolizes that the commitment we made to marriage wasn’t just between the two of us. The covenant was made by three of us, with God at the center. Scripture […]

Water Your Marriage

I have a spider plant that just won’t stop making babies. I really don’t do much with the plant, but I faithfully water it, give it plenty of sunshine, and fertilize it once a month. So it happily grows and grows. In fact, it grows so fast and multiplies so often that I have made […]

Micro-Seasons in Marriage

Ecclesiastes says “there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens”. That includes those micro-seasons of marriage within every day, week, and year. So how do you manage those micro-seasons of marriage? Let’s look at Ecclesiastes 3 and see what guidance it might bring, especially as we head into […]

The Twelve Prayers of Christmas

Merry Christmas! Here’s a twist on the “12 Days of Christmas” song as my gift to you. For the first prayer of Christmas my good Lord gave to me: A prayer of peace for all of God’s world. For the second prayer of Christmas my good Lord gave to me: Two eyes to see Him […]

10 Commandments for Christmas (Part Five)

How can we apply the 9th and 10th Commandments to our busy American Christmas season? Let’s see. Commandment 9: Don’t lie This is a hard one because it involves, among other things, humility. Often we are expected to buy and exchange gifts that we can’t afford, or we are invited to a multitude of parties […]

10 Commandments for Christmas (Part Four)

How can we apply the 7th and 8th Commandments to our busy American Christmas season? Let’s see. Commandment 7: Don’t commit adultery Really? At first, it was a mystery for me to know how to apply this commandment to Christmas. Of course I’m not going to commit adultery! So how could I fit this into […]