Heirlooms

“Like branches on a tree, we all grow in different directions, but our roots keep us all together.”—author unknown Whether it’s a quilt, a woodcarving, lace, furniture, Christmas ornaments, trinkets, pocket watches, recipes, photos, paintings, portraits, dishes, decorations, military memorabilia, etc., an heirloom is something valuable that is owned and passed down from one generation […]

Growing Together Spiritually

As this new year gets underway, it may be a good time to revisit your spiritual needs—individually and as a couple—and discuss how can each of you can help meet those needs. As we grow and mature, our needs often change, so it’s good to adjust to them accordingly. First, if you haven’t already, find […]

Be-Attitudes for the New Year

Emotions, stress, expectations, and frustrations can easily find their way into the blending family life, so it’s important for you as a couple to try and address probable stressors ahead of time. Because our attitudes have a lot to do with our actions, here are eight be-attitudes that can help you manage your blending family […]

Building Traditions That Bond

For blending families, there are a lot of “but we always did it this way” challenges that come during the Christmas season, whether it’s about food, gift giving, visiting and traveling, or even decorating. Younger children may adapt fairly easily to your new blending family Christmases, while older children may want everything the way it […]

When Christmases Clash

The Christmas season can reveal differences between the two of you that didn’t even know you had, and this time of year can even exacerbate the differences you already know you have. When you’re aware of your holiday differences, you can plan to balance them. One couple in our book, The ReMarriage Adventure, had to […]

A High View of Blending Family Life

When there are kids in the home, it’s often critical for you as a couple to take a long-term view of family life. Yes, in the short term, you’ll probably be sacrificing many of your wants and desires—and sometimes even your needs—so you can meet the needs of your children. But it’s important to keep […]

10 Commandments for Christmas (Part Three)

How can we apply the 5th and 6th Commandments to our busy American Christmas season? Let’s see. Commandment 5: Honor your mother and father In a culture that often dishonors parents, how can we teach honor to our children, and how does it apply to Christmas? I had to think long and hard about how […]

Don’t Let The Myths Get You Down

There are so many blending family myths out there—thoughts that cast dark shadows on the redemptive work God can do in a remarriage that is under His control. Sure, remarriage and blending a family is definitely more complex. But it can also be a place of healing, hope, and redemption like none other. So I’d […]

Blending Family Movies

There are lots of ways to start discussions with your children about remarriage and blending your family. One way is to watch some of the following blending family movies* together and then talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of the characters’ experiences. Take some time this summer, or all year long, […]

Making Time For Each Other

Couples tend to get so busy running the kids here and there that they let their private couple time fall to the wayside. But that’s not healthy for your marriage. “We have to be intentional about making time together,” Gayle says. “But instead of expecting a certain amount of couple time, we have to be […]