What an Adventure!

I recently returned from visiting my family in South Africa. It was an amazing trip, full of love and laughter, new baby cuddles and little girl giggles. Seeing my daughter mother her four girls and watching my wonderful son-in-law be the daddy that I always dreamed of for my grandchildren was just plain thrilling. For five weeks […]

Be-Attitudes for the New Year

Emotions, stress, expectations, and frustrations can easily find their way into the blending family life, so it’s important for you as a couple to try and address probable stressors ahead of time. Because our attitudes have a lot to do with our actions, here are eight be-attitudes that can help you manage your blending family […]

Building Traditions That Bond

For blending families, there are a lot of “but we always did it this way” challenges that come during the Christmas season, whether it’s about food, gift giving, visiting and traveling, or even decorating. Younger children may adapt fairly easily to your new blending family Christmases, while older children may want everything the way it […]

When Christmases Clash

The Christmas season can reveal differences between the two of you that didn’t even know you had, and this time of year can even exacerbate the differences you already know you have. When you’re aware of your holiday differences, you can plan to balance them. One couple in our book, The ReMarriage Adventure, had to […]

New Year’s Resolutions?

My favorite scripture is Jeremiah 29:11, “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future’.” As I look back on 2012, I see how God had some wonderful plans for me. I became a […]

To Grandmother’s House we go!

In a blending family, sometimes the biological grandparents or new step-grandparents just aren’t sure where they fit into this new blending family, especially in their holiday plans. But you can help your children’s grandparents as well as the new step-grandparents navigate their relationship with your children by clearly defining your desires and expectations, especially during […]

Blending Family Communication

The challenges of communicating well in a blending family are many. Past hurts, current perceptions, expectations, and fears or frustrations affect communicating well. The adjustment process is a long and winding road, so providing extra measures of patience and kindness help in communicating with kids and stepkids. Experts suggest that, in the beginning, it’s best […]

The Precious Gift of Nature

Chipmunks scurrying around my feet. The wind blowing in the pine trees. The campfire crackling and burning brightly. A hawk diving for its prey. The sights and sounds of nature. It’s energizing. It’s inspiring. It’s peaceful. They are nature’s gifts. As I write, my husband and I are enjoying a camping trip in Durango, visiting […]

Adventure in the In-Law Journey

In-laws often get a bad rap, and some deservedly so. Some in-laws are way too involved in their adult children’s lives. Some make rude comments or give unwanted opinions. Some reject the son or daughter-in-law outright and create a family rift. Some see only the weaknesses of their adult child’s spouse and treat them with […]

A Life Lived Well

We recently celebrated my mother’s 90th birthday with a big party, a week at a cottage on the St. Lawrence River, and many hours of laughter and reminiscing. She is an example of a life lived well. It hasn’t been an easy life for her. She grew up as a poor farm girl where the […]