Pleasure in the Process

After watching the movie, Chariots of Fire, many years ago, someone asked me this question: “When do you feel God’s pleasure?” It didn’t take long before I blurted out “When I write, I feel God’s pleasure,” and it struck me… Read More

A High View of Blending Family Life

When there are kids in the home, it’s often critical for you as a couple to take a long-term view of family life. Yes, in the short term, you’ll probably be sacrificing many of your wants and desires—and… Read More

Prepare for Your Marriage

Many couples get engaged on Valentine’s Day and find them busy with preparing for their wedding. But less than 30 percent of couples actually prepare for the rest of their lives together by reading premarital books, taking a… Read More

Listen and Love

Many of us have never really learned to listen well. We’ve learned to be selective listeners—sifting information, ignoring details, and allowing ourselves to be distracted by everything around us. In today’s media-driven world, we’re often living on information… Read More

A Valentine’s Gift That Keeps on Giving

In our living room there is a symbol we used in our wedding ceremony. It’s a three-strand cord of red, white, and gold. For us, it symbolizes that the commitment we made to marriage wasn’t just between the… Read More

Copping a Money ‘Tude

“When we married, we wanted to be responsible for our own past financial obligations so that we would be fair to each other,” Marcos says. “But we continually work together to tweak our joint budget.” How did your… Read More

Learning to Discern

Sometimes it’s so hard to discern what’s going on in your life emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually. Something is off kilter, but you just can’t put your hands on it. You’re not quite yourself. You’re edgy. You’re frustrated. You’re… Read More

Water Your Marriage

I have a spider plant that just won’t stop making babies. I really don’t do much with the plant, but I faithfully water it, give it plenty of sunshine, and fertilize it once a month. So it happily… Read More

Micro-Seasons in Marriage

Ecclesiastes says “there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens”. That includes those micro-seasons of marriage within every day, week, and year. So how do you manage those micro-seasons of marriage?… Read More

The Twelve Prayers of Christmas

Merry Christmas! Here’s a twist on the “12 Days of Christmas” song as my gift to you. For the first prayer of Christmas my good Lord gave to me: A prayer of peace for all of God’s world…. Read More